3.01.2010

The MiL and the Car Seat

It's been a while since I have sat down and complained about the MiL to anyone. We continue to have these incidents where she takes it upon herself to make decisions for Grace that she does not bother to get my opinion.  Then, after the fact, she brags to me about it.  I'm tired of it, but I've pretty much stopped complaining to J. It is his mom and it makes him uncomfortable when I  bring up something that disagrees with her sacred Order of Things.  Most things are technically minor, but I still stay pretty irritated.

Having said all that, the latest battle, which I'm now facing alone, is over the car seat.  I was informed about two weeks ago that Grace is now One, so therefore it is time that we can lose the heavy-as-all-get-out infant car seat for the much more convenient forward-facing variety.

Well, I have a problem with this.  My child is petite. She's not quite the recommended 20 pounds. (She's probably 19 something by now, but still NOT 20.)  Besides, I've read tons of information about how much safer rear-facing car seats are, so I'm not in a terrible hurry to switch.

I told the MiL this and expected to have a reprieve of the subject until I (the PARENT) brought it up again.

Saturday, the MiL bought a forward-facing car seat and informed us that we would no longer need to leave the infant car seat with Grace when we drop her off in the mornings.

Sunday night, the MiL watched Grace while J & I were at choir/orchestra practice and brought her to church.  She informed me that "Grace loves the new carseat. She did so much better than that other one."

A background note...Grace hates driving in the dark. Sometimes she screams the entire ride. Apparently the forward facing car seat is the solution to this problem.  But, it is a solution that I would like to implement.  When I feel that Grace is big enough.

7 comments:

Mommy, I'm Home said...

MILs... What a pain in the you-know-what...

Amy said...

Oh no she did not. We have a little kiddo too-he wasn't 20 pounds until he was 15 months old. I made him ride rear facing the entire time until he reached the 20 pound mark and debated on making him go to the carseat max weight. It's SO much safer for them to ride rear facing. Stick to your guns. She needs to respect you as a mom.

PS we have the carseat in your pick and LOVE IT.

Michelle said...

AWE! I'm sorry you are dealing with that. IT STINKS. I am so blessed that my parents and his parents just SUPPORT us. OH, I pray I can be that way with my daughter and my new grandbaby. I so do not want to be the mil who does this!!!

If it helps at all, my DH (an engineer) tells me that its not terribly safer either way. He read it in a book somewhere...Freakanomics. They also say that fluoride helps but I still buy fluoride free toothpaste. LOL

G said...

If she were my MiL, I might have to harm her. Just kidding, but it's a thought.

When Pal was 5 he went to my BiL's house for the weekend and came home exclaiming "Uncle & Aunty let me ride in the front seat, and with NO BOOSTER!!!" ARGHHHH!!!!!

In-law's....you can't live with 'em and you can't shoot 'em...

Grammy Blick said...

In Texas, weight/height are the deciding factors -- neither age nor MiLs. Any chance of her having a late-life baby and changing focus?????

Unknown Mami said...

I'm screaming my head off for you!

The Wifey said...

In Ohio AND California you have to be all three to meet the requirements. I'm going to guess that's probably true for all states. I'd tell your MIL that and act like you're just obeying the law. ;)

Sophie's 8 months old, and meets both the height and weight limit. But until she hits the one year mark, I have to be keeping her rear facing.